Tuesday, January 15, 2013

The Egg Basket Analogy (Or Love Story, Part II)

To continue on with our dating story... I figure I should give a little background that not everyone one is familiar with. I don't want to get into too many details, but while Andrew was off on his mission I was attending classes at BYU-Idaho in Rexburg. I was dating and with one boy, things were getting pretty serious
Needless to say, Andrew was the last person on my mind at that time...
In the midst of my relationship with "serious boy" Andrew came home from his mission, and moved to Laramie Wyoming to begin his own classes at WyoTech. I had no idea he was home and made no contact with him until nearly a year-and-a-half after his return!
Days came and went and I eventually discovered that things just weren't going to work with "serious boy". (He had broken up with me twice already and I really liked him, so, when he would come around again, I'd open my heart back up to him. Eventually, though, I realized for my own health and happiness it would be better for me to try to move on after the final break-up. (I would just like to say that I have no hard feelings toward him and I truly wish him the best in life. Sometimes things just don't work out, but that doesn't merit reason to hate a person just because of circumstance).  It was late October of 2010 and I had decided that I was not going to get into a serious relationship for a while. I just wanted to have some fun and make as many new friends as I could, so I began signing up for nearly every social activity I came across. Well, when you are social at school, you often meet people who you become interested in. I was suddenly going on multiple dates a week! I couldn't believe how many boys were asking me out, and my roommates teased me for never being home. I was still holding to enjoying the single life, though, and nothing with any of those boys was really going anywhere... until a curve-ball came at me in November...
I logged into my email one night to see that I had a message on my "Myspace" account from ANDREW NEWMAN! I thought it was odd because I hadn't checked my Myspace for over a year, and I had actually forgotten it even existed.
The message said: (because I know you're nosy are dying to know)  ;-)
"Hey, you! Its been awhile. How's it going?"
I stared at it for a few minutes wondering what had spurred this inquiry, but quickly wrote back that I didn't get on Myspace, along with my phone number.
A day later, I got a text message from an unknown number.
I don't remember what it said, but knowing Andrew, it probably said something along the lines of... "What's up?" :-)
I continued dating other people, but when I was home I was constantly texting or talking to Andrew. My roommate, Nicole, finally decided sometime in early December that I needed to 'narrow my horizons.' As she put it, I 'had too many eggs in many different baskets' and I guess she thought that I was going to create a mess for myself.
Looking back, I think this is absolutely childish of us, but Nicole, Whitney, Becca (my beloved roommates) and I sat down one night to right out a list of the boys I had been dating. That list had twelve names! I was shocked to say the least. (I knew I was dating a few, but to see it down on paper like that was a whole new perspective). Well, we started going through the list and talking about pros and cons of each name... Nicole told me I should choose one person and focus on them instead of wasting everyone's time. Oddly enough, I chose the person that I hadn't actually been out on a date with; Andrew. I didn't turn down dates after that, but I did begin to focus more on my studies and spend more time at home... I had plans to meet up with a long-lost acquaintance over Christmas break, and it gave me something to look forward to....